Sibling Situations

Any parent is well aware of the fact that as soon as that tiny bundle enters into your family, you automatically take on the role of nurse, teacher, counsellor, cleaner, chauffeur.. .the list is endless. Whilst I accept and even enjoy most of these roles (well maybe enjoy is not quite the right word, especially when it comes to the cleaning role!), one I would give up instantly is that of.. .referee! Whilst I have just written about family fun, an aspect of family life that certainly is not fun is that in a household with more than one child, friction will undoubtedly occur - and when there is the added presence of any shade of the autistic spectrum then corners tend to be chipped off each family member in rather painful chunks!

I have already apologized earlier for the fact that this book is a hotchpotch of children, ages, abilities and 'disorders'. That's my family! I am sure many of you reading this have your own combination of age, ability and difference and there is nothing surer than the fact that no child stands alone. In a family with more than one child, the domino effect is a fascinating (OK so maybe infuriating!) and inevitable part of life. One person affects the whole family and the whole family affects each individual. When our autistic children have a major meltdown, it is often due to the fact that one of their siblings provoked it, sometimes due to a lack of understanding and sometimes for no other reason than he or she merely felt like it. When our AD/HD children are particularly hyperactive or aggressive, it is often due to the fact that one or other oftheir siblings is teasing or aggravating them or, as is the case in my household, has left out some foodstuff that causes a behavioural reaction. If our AS children are unusually withdrawn or maybe uncharacteristically aggressive, then more often than not it is due to the fact that one or other of their siblings has interfered with their belongings or is purposefully aggravating, in order to witness their response. Maybe a dyspraxic member of the family has knocked a drink over a sibling's work or an AD/HD or autistic child has shredded a piece of important coursework (Ben has eaten many a serious piece of paperwork). Whatever the scenario, there is nothing surer than the fact that one child's actions and reactions have a direct result on another...and another...and another!

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